The Narrator in Chuck Palahniuk's Fight Club (I'm sure you've all noticed by now that this is one of my favorite novels by my favorite author) said he enjoyed attending support groups because “People listened instead of just waiting for their turn to speak.” It's a good feeling, knowing someone's listening to you. Not just hearing and throwing in some “yeah”s and “I understand”s in the appropriate places, but truly listening when someone wants an ear. Not waiting for their turn to talk. Something I take pride in is my ability to listen.
But one thing I've noticed lately is the lack of listening. I don't just mean someone waiting for an opportunity to tell their story. I mean the people would rather hear what they want to hear to validate their argument. And don't even try talking logically with them, they'll just ignore that, too.
And then there's the people who would rather believe they're right despite any evidence to prove otherwise. For example, you go into the doctor's office with immense chest pain. They tell you it's just anxiety, despite the fact that you've gone through anxiety and know this is not how it feels. They don't care. They see you have a history with anxiety, so that's the answer. Well, they haven't been listening to your body (or to your words) and you have, so I'd say it's time to go to a new doctor.
I got a bit off topic (though it's still the same general thought).Going back to my original point, though, people will pretend they want to listen, but really they're wondering when you're going to shut up so they can tell you about what an awesome time they had last night. If people would try to listen more, some people wouldn't need thousands of dollars to pay somebody to listen to them. Some people wouldn't have to keep all of their emotions bottled up deep inside because no one will listen.
If everyone just took the time to stop and care about that other person in the conversation, imagine how much we could do.
To try and counteract the thought of hate from yesterday, today I'm going to talk about love. More specifically, loving yourself. People have more negative things to say about their body than positive. This needs to change!
How many of you can honestly say you are completely happy with everything about you? Your hair's too short, you have a little extra flab on your belly. In your mind, these things make you ugly. But why is that? Because someone else looks differently than you? We are individual beings and should be treated as such. So what if you don't look like Angelina Jolie or Brad Pitt? If you were meant to look like them, you'd be them!
But not looking like a movie star doesn't make you any less beautiful! Being who you are is what makes you beautiful. You are the only one with your smile. You are the only one with your eyes. You are the only one with your nose. You are the only one who can be you!
Tyler Durden (from Chuck Palahniuk's Fight Club, if you don't know) couldn't have said it any better. “I say, deliver me from clear skin and perfect teeth!” Having clear skin and perfect teeth doesn't mean you're beautiful. If you're flawless, you are fake. Your flaws are what make you perfect. They're what make you beautiful.
This post has been a short one, but it's not about reading my words. It's about believing you are beautiful. It's about accepting your flaws and flaunting them. It's abouat going against this ideal body shape and image and being yourself.
I say, deliver me from fashion magazines. I say, deliver me from diet pills. I say, deliver me from ten pounds of makeup. I say, we should all vow to try to love ourselves more! I say, we should start a revolution.
Hello! I'm Lindsey. I'm a writer with a ton of random thoughts bouncing around in my head. So I share them here in hopes that they reach others with these thoughts.