The Narrator in Chuck Palahniuk's Fight Club (I'm sure you've all noticed by now that this is one of my favorite novels by my favorite author) said he enjoyed attending support groups because “People listened instead of just waiting for their turn to speak.” It's a good feeling, knowing someone's listening to you. Not just hearing and throwing in some “yeah”s and “I understand”s in the appropriate places, but truly listening when someone wants an ear. Not waiting for their turn to talk. Something I take pride in is my ability to listen.
But one thing I've noticed lately is the lack of listening. I don't just mean someone waiting for an opportunity to tell their story. I mean the people would rather hear what they want to hear to validate their argument. And don't even try talking logically with them, they'll just ignore that, too.
And then there's the people who would rather believe they're right despite any evidence to prove otherwise. For example, you go into the doctor's office with immense chest pain. They tell you it's just anxiety, despite the fact that you've gone through anxiety and know this is not how it feels. They don't care. They see you have a history with anxiety, so that's the answer. Well, they haven't been listening to your body (or to your words) and you have, so I'd say it's time to go to a new doctor.
I got a bit off topic (though it's still the same general thought).Going back to my original point, though, people will pretend they want to listen, but really they're wondering when you're going to shut up so they can tell you about what an awesome time they had last night. If people would try to listen more, some people wouldn't need thousands of dollars to pay somebody to listen to them. Some people wouldn't have to keep all of their emotions bottled up deep inside because no one will listen.
If everyone just took the time to stop and care about that other person in the conversation, imagine how much we could do.
To try and counteract the thought of hate from yesterday, today I'm going to talk about love. More specifically, loving yourself. People have more negative things to say about their body than positive. This needs to change!
How many of you can honestly say you are completely happy with everything about you? Your hair's too short, you have a little extra flab on your belly. In your mind, these things make you ugly. But why is that? Because someone else looks differently than you? We are individual beings and should be treated as such. So what if you don't look like Angelina Jolie or Brad Pitt? If you were meant to look like them, you'd be them!
But not looking like a movie star doesn't make you any less beautiful! Being who you are is what makes you beautiful. You are the only one with your smile. You are the only one with your eyes. You are the only one with your nose. You are the only one who can be you!
Tyler Durden (from Chuck Palahniuk's Fight Club, if you don't know) couldn't have said it any better. “I say, deliver me from clear skin and perfect teeth!” Having clear skin and perfect teeth doesn't mean you're beautiful. If you're flawless, you are fake. Your flaws are what make you perfect. They're what make you beautiful.
This post has been a short one, but it's not about reading my words. It's about believing you are beautiful. It's about accepting your flaws and flaunting them. It's abouat going against this ideal body shape and image and being yourself.
I say, deliver me from fashion magazines. I say, deliver me from diet pills. I say, deliver me from ten pounds of makeup. I say, we should all vow to try to love ourselves more! I say, we should start a revolution.
Today while riding in the car, I started thinking about The Beatles. One thing lead to another and soon I was freaking out over the concept of time. Do you realize that when all of the children born in 2010 are in their fifties, they will hear about The Beatles—the band that was famous one hundred years ago.
One hundred years. One century.
Technology evolves so quickly, will they even have The Beatles? Yes, I realize their music is still very popular today, but popular culture changes so quickly and one hundred years is a long time. What if they're just left with some other musician's version of the song? Will my future children and their children and their children's children be deprived of some of the most influential music the music industry has seen?
One hundred years ago, there were no World Wars. One hundred years ago, the average working salary was $750 a year. One hundred years ago, the only movies one could see were silent. One hundred years ago, Jazz music was just starting down in New Orleans. And in fifty short years, they will be saying “One hundred years ago, The Beatles were a world-wide musical sensation.”
It's mind blowing how much can change in just one hundred years.
A thought that just came to me is what will people one hundred years from today think of our time? Will our tens of thousand dollar salaries seem like nothing? What will they think of the main stream musicians like Justin Bieber? Will they see him as a classic the way we see The Beatles as a classic? (To be honest with you, readers, I truly hope Justin Bieber is never on the same level as The Beatles in society's eyes. But that's just my honest opinion.) Will Brad Pitt be the classic actor of the “oldies” (imagine Fight Club being considering an oldie!) the same way Chalie Chaplin is?
I could go on for ages on this topic, but I'll spare your eyes and brain.
I am interested in hearing your thoughts. What do you hope is remembered from this era one hundred years from now? What do you hope is forgotten?
Source for some of my historical facts
Hello! I'm Lindsey. I'm a writer with a ton of random thoughts bouncing around in my head. So I share them here in hopes that they reach others with these thoughts.