I was reflecting on a few things in life while driving earlier today. Specifically, I was thinking on relationships I have/have had where I struggled with the idea that it may be best to not be in that relationship anymore. If you even partially know me, you know that I highly believe in cutting toxic people out of your life; but on that same note of knowing me, you know I'm a very kind, forgiving person in most situations. But this topic was on my mind after having a conversation with a few friends from my small group at church where we mentioned being people-pleasers.
And then it hit me. I had an epiphany. A little message from God/The Universe that said, "Someone's circumstances don't give them the right to treat you any way they please, if it isn't beneficial to you." Now, you may thinking "DUH!" but it was one of those "duh" moments I really needed to hear right now. See, lately, it's been spoken on my heart that I need to start focusing more on what it is that I want/need for me and my family instead of what would make other people happy. And I don't mean that in a selfish way, but in a nurturing way (because, while it may not always occur to us, nurturing ourselves is quite important.) The urge has influenced things as small as what we should do one afternoon, to where we should live when we buy a house and everything in between. This all circles back to where I started this post; relationships. If you asked me to tell you why I was put on this Earth, I would say that as far as I know now, at the age of 25, it's to help people. Whether it's being a listening ear, being a mother to my children, or hopefully inspring people with my writing. I'm here to help. But sometimes, in the midst of trying to help, someone says the wrong words to you and they stick with you, even after you've already forgiven them (forgiving and forgetting are two very different things. I don't hold ill will toward anyone, but I'm also wise enough to not forget what has been said.) And the next thing you know, you find yourself making excuses as to why it was okay to be treated some way, even if you were sure they didn't quite realize how they came across--they had such and such going on, so they were just stressed, or what have you. It doesn't matter what they're going through. Nothing can excuse someone treating you less than the awesome person you are. I'm not saying you have to automatically cut out everyone who ever says something that rubs you the wrong way, but you don't have to constantly go out of your way for someone like that's happiness. Because, as selfish as it sounds, when it comes to your own happiness, you're more important. And to think, all of this popped in my head just because I was at a red light. Funny how life works that way, huh?
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Jen
9/10/2015 05:56:26 am
Love ❤️❤️❤️❤️ And you are so right about every word!
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AuthorHello! I'm Lindsey. I'm a writer with a ton of random thoughts bouncing around in my head. So I share them here in hopes that they reach others with these thoughts. Archives
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